Not all parents are bonded to their children with
disabilities. I've always tried to
understand why. I have always been
exceptionally bonded to my children.
But, when the bond is broken, for whatever reason, it really hurts.
Some parents can not accept or cope with the disability of
their children. It is such a drain on
one's life. The government rules and
restrictions often make it very difficult for the natural parent to get enough
help. This is a form of punishment on a
parent, so one can give up.
Many disabled people, who are placed, do not have family
visits, or have negligible visits. I
think some parents need to cut off the tie in order for their lives to go
on. Everyone has different levels of
emotional tolerance.
In my case, I take my disabled son home several months out
of the year. He needs total care, so it
is hard, especially when there are so many behavioral issues. But, he craves to be with his family and I
have a tight bond with him, almost on an ESP
(Extrasensory Perception) level.
I do know that these disabled people, no matter how severe
they are, deep down they want their family.
I've seen some Disabled Clients call out for family members in times of
medical emergencies, but, no family members were at their bedside. I felt so bad for them. You wish you could comfort them, but, no one
can replace a parent or family member.
Severe Autism is one of the worst disabilities because it
often comes with Seizures, lack of Speech and Communication, and Severe
Behavior problems. No one seems to have
the time or patience for these poor people who are often very intelligent and
very aware of their problem, but can not cope themselves. Often there is a sense of fear about them,
which can cause the ritualistic behavior as a coping mechanism.
It is not an easy life for the family and when things do not
go right, it can be a big emotional blow that can be devastating. It takes a long time to heal, but with people
on the Autistic Spectrum, there can be many devastating events.
